In today’s fast-paced world, which is dominated by the incessant chatter/scroll of social media and the constant pings on notifications, it is easy to overlook the power and beauty found in the power of silence.  Yet, within these quiet spaces lies an unspoken language that captures the essence of human connection.  This is the language of love, spoken through actions, gestures and presence—often more eloquent than words could ever be.  Love communicates the depth of human connection in ways that words often fail to capture.  Sometimes there are just no words that express what needs to be said.  Every time I experience this, I think of love being expressed in such a profound and meaningful way.

We have the ability through facial expressions to share empathy, understanding, compassion, admiration and sometimes even a shared history. Our eyes have long been called the windows to our soul and for good reason.  Our eyes tell the truth of what our heart and soul feel. Our eyes show love, pain, hurt, sorrow and grief.  The challenge is we are so busy sometimes that we do not take time to truly and deeply look into another’s eyes. Many of us have lost this aspect of human connection. The aforementioned distractions are part of the problem. Take time to reconnect through eye contact.  These types of moments transcend verbal communication, offering a glimpse into a depth of emotion that often words fail to reach.  The eyes show love and truth without a single word spoken.

Touch is our silent communicator.  Touch is amongst the most profound forms of non-verbal communication.  A hug can offer solace when words fail to comfort.  Holding hands can symbolize solidarity and support.  A gentle touch on the shoulder can express empathy.  Through touch, love speaks directly to the heart, bypassing the need for verbal articulation.  It is immediate, intimate, and deeply human.  In addition, sharing in these sometimes-vulnerable moments with others profoundly impact and speak to our own hearts.  Touching another is not always welcomed by the recipient, but I will share from lots of experiences throughout life that it is truthfully far and few between.  Most humans I know crave the human touch and the love that is conveyed through it.  Touch speaks volumes without a single word spoken.

Love often manifests itself through our actions rather than our words.  The old adage, actions speak louder than words is so true.  Simply being present when needed is expression of love that requires no verbal acknowledgment.  Acts of service speaks volumes, offering to help a colleague, holding the hand of a dying patient, taking initiative when someone is struggling, etc.  It communicates, “I care about you.” “You matter to me.” “You are important.”  Being of service speaks love without a single word spoken.

We may also offer comfort to another just by letting them know that they are not alone, that we are there for them, sharing the same space, time, and experience.  Thus, sometimes love is best expressed by simply being there. Being present without advice giving, just sharing empathy in the moments of the experience.  Sitting together in silence, sharing a peaceful moment without the need for words.  Just being present speaks love without a single word spoken.

Love’s true essence often lies beyond the reach of language. It is a shared silence that love speaks most profoundly.  In these moments, we find a deeper connection—a connection that reassures us of our place in the heart of those we cherish.

So, the next time there is a loss of words, remember that love thrives and blesses others in ways that require no words.  Let actions, gestures, presence, touch and love speak for itself without a single word spoken.

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Cella Janisch-Hartline, RN, BSN, PCC Professional Certified Coach, Nursing & Leadership Development Senior Manager for Rural Wisconsin Health Cooperative has been involved in various healthcare industry leadership positions for the past 40 years. The majority of her career has been spent working in an acute care critical access facility for nearly 25 years. Throughout her work experience, she has learned most of her leadership skills and techniques through the school of “hard knocks”. Cella’s passion for teaching leadership tips and techniques earned her the 2018 Outstanding Educator Award through the National Rural Health Association. She is well-known for her humorous, engaging and personable facilitation style.